The Tantric Multi-Orgasmic Male
“Before I understood how to open with you, I tried giving you orgasms so I knew I was a good lover. But now, all I want is your surrender. I want your heart’s pleasure to ripple through your open body and saturate my life with your love. Your body’s openness to love’s flow draws me into you, and through your heart’s surrender I am opened to the love that lives as the universe. Whether you have an orgasm or not while we make love, your body’s trust and devotional openness is my secret doorway to love’s deepest bliss.”
- David Deida
Believe it or not, any man can become multi-orgasmic. What is needed is just a basic understanding of male sexuality and certain techniques.
Most men focus solely on ejaculating, rather than on the actual lovemaking process. A multi-orgasmic man can not only better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner. Technically, multiple orgasms occur in succession, without complete loss of sexual arousal in between. Women are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. Men, are you aware that with proper training can actually do the same.
For women, multiple orgasm means resuming sexual stimulation shortly after a first orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the woman does indeed experience further climaxes during the same sexual encounter, she is called ‘multi-orgasmic’.
Most men mistakenly believe that regaining their erection as soon as possible after ejaculation and reaching another climax within some arbitrary period of time qualifies as being multi-orgasmic. However, the true multi-orgasmic male does NOT lose his erection between orgasms. Multiple male orgasms include only orgasm and not ejaculation. The only exception being, when ejaculation accompanies the final orgasm in a multi-orgasmic experience.
Vitally important is to fully grasp the technical process involved in the Sexual Arousal Cycle.
1. Excitement Phase
- Increased heart rate
- Partial testicular elevation and size increase (Tumescence)
- Nipple erection
2. Plateau Phase
- Further increase in penis tip size and testicles
- Full testicular elevation
- Purple hue on corona (although not always)
- Cowper’s gland (pre-cum) secretions
3. Orgasm Phase (Consists of Emission & Ejaculation)
- Sperm and fluid are expelled from the vas deferens, seminal vesicles and prostate gland, causing seminal fluid fluid to collect at the base of the urethral bulb near the prostate.
- Myotonia – muscular rigidity just before the release tension
- Blood pressure and respiratory rate increase further.
Ejaculatory Inevitability (point of no return) Call it a consciousness of imminent ejaculation.
- Bladder sphincter closes tightly
- Rhythmic contractions of the prostate, perinial muscles and penile shaft propel semen outward.
- A slight clouding of consciousness
4. Resolution Phase
- Erection loss
- Testes descend and scrotum thins
- Reversal in myotonia and vasocongestion
- Reduced heart rate and lowered blood pressure.
Multiple Orgasms versus Ejaculatory Orgasms
Both begin in the same way, moving from arousal until a point near ejaculation or point of no return. At this point, a man experiences a series of genital contractions lasting 3 to 5 seconds. These contractions are “pelvic orgasms” and at first feel like a “fluttering” or mild release of pressure. Once identified and controlled, these sensations become progressively more intense.
When approaching the point of no return, the goal is not to crest over into ejaculation but to decrease stimulation, just long enough to gain control over the arousal rate. Effective control can be achieved by squeezing the PC muscles.
NOTE: Learning to control the PC muscles is essential to sexual health and stamina.
In the diagram below, the plateau stage is represented as a heightened state of arousal which eventually lead s into orgasm if stimulation is allowed to continue.
Notice how the two charts differ. In a typical singular orgasm including ejaculation, the plateau phase is reached and passed quickly as the orgasm subsides and ejaculation occurs. In a multiple orgasmic encounter, the plateau phase is reached and sustained after the initial orgasm and between the next orgasm. The successive orgasms are also slightly stronger than the previous ones, if and when the man decides to ejaculate with the final orgasm. Ejaculation is optional, after several orgasms it may be decided not to ejaculate at all. In which case, the arousal pattern closely follows that of a woman and gradually declines over an hour’s time instead of declining very sharply after ejaculation.
How is multiple orgasm possible?
The male and female sexual response cycles are quite similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women can have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm as they do not ejaculate.
Ejaculation initiates the refractory period in males. During this time, most men cannot achieve another erection or even receive further stimulation due to the loss of sexual tension. Moreover, the penis is usually too sensitive to touch. Since women are not biologically programmed to ejaculate, they lack this annoying feature and can learn about and achieve multiple orgasms much easier than men.
The 1st key to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is to grasp that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events, which one can learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before (ejaculation) then tapering off during ejaculation.
The 2nd key to navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation.
**The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or “PC muscle” as it’s more commonly known. You may recognize this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If so, you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you’ can have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle, you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward.
- Sit in a comfortable position relaxing the shoulders.
- Place hands on the abdomen, just below the belly button.
- Inhale deeply. Breathing deeply through the nose, so the belly pushes out.
- Exhale fully. Exhale to a point to a point of which the belly contracts back to the spine. The pelvis and testicles may feel as if they are pulling up slightly.
- Repeat this exercise from 9 to 36 times.
Having multiple orgasms as a male takes considerable preparation. The first step is to discover the PC muscle. It’s essential to become intimately familiar with this muscle in order to learn to control it very precisely. Some of this control will come with experience, but most will come by strengthening it through regular exercise. Once it’s been discovered where it is (most easily while urinating), it can be exercised anywhere, without anyone knowing.
- Begin experimenting on your own at first (while masturbating).
- Make yourself comfortable; then begin masturbating as normally.
- Stop just before you reach the point of no return (the point where you would ejaculate). Contract (squeeze) and hold your PC muscle for a count of ten.
- Allow yourself to relax and take a few minutes break.
- Begin masturbating again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer to the point of no return, again contracting your PC muscle.
- Continue masturbating while paying close attention to your own state of arousal and emotional feelings. The key here is to learn more about your own sexual response so that down the road you’ll be more in control of it.
Stopping right before Ejaculation
Continue masturbating, except this time, keep going until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you should notice several contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation in the base of your penis and perhaps even deeper inside your pelvis. As these contractions begin or preferably just before (but still during the orgasm), stop all stimulation to the penis and squeeze the PC muscle tight. You’ll probably feel yourself trying to ejaculate, but hold it back! Squeezing your PC muscle effectively shuts off ejaculation, if you are successful, and erases the refractory period.
A small amount semen may seep out, but not with force you normally experience during an unrestrained singular orgasm. If you were able to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start masturbating again now. It should feel as though you are still very aroused, not like you just ejaculated. You should be able to continue for a short time until you have another orgasm.
If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first time, either your PC muscle isn’t strong enough yet or you squeezed it at the wrong time. If you begin squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut stop the process completely. With practice, you learn the timing.
There are many possible techniques you can use to greatly increase your success in becoming multi-orgasmic. Perhaps the greatest technique you can practice is to share your experiences in becoming a multi-orgasmic man with your romantic partner. If you are eventually successful, this is an awesome opportunity for you to significantly increase the pleasure you both receive during lovemaking.
Undoubtedly the biggest obstacle most men will report when trying to become multi-orgasmic is failure to squeeze their PC muscle sufficiently during orgasm to ward off ejaculation. You may feel some contractions, but do not stop squeezing at this point because a few ejaculatory contractions are likely even if you are successful in eventually stopping them. If successful, the contractions will stop before you ejaculate and you can resume stimulation without loss of sensitivity, as would be present during the refractory period after ejaculation.
Another common problem with these techniques is failing to determine exactly where the boundaries of plateau, orgasm, and ejaculation begin and end. If you cannot determine the difference between orgasm and ejaculation, a key to becoming multi-orgasmic, you can only succeed by accident and not intentionally.
Some men may try to stimulate themselves very quickly and rigorously, and this is not the best way to become aware of your personal level of sexual awareness. Taking the stimulation slower rather than faster will allow you to discover your personal boundaries between arousal, plateau, and orgasm more easily. With these discoveries you will have a much greater chance of learning when to squeeze your PC muscle, when to stop stimulation, and when to relax your PC muscle and resume stimulation to experience another orgasm.
Pelvic pressure after arousal
Pressure in the pelvic area naturally results from increased blood flow into the genital area. If the level of this pressure is uncomfortable, it helps to breathe deeply, elevate the lower extremities and massage the perineum and testicles lightly. This helps the body assimilate the energy from the testicles to the rest of the body. Ideally, you should stay in a reclined position between 5 to 10 minutes.
If you have other sexual problems; i.e., premature ejaculation, learning to become multi-orgasmic will help you tremendously during lovemaking. Not only will you be able to greatly prolong the session by suppressing ejaculation until you choose, but you will be free to release your worries and anxiety and focus more on pleasing your partner. The list of positive effects is endless!
A man may wonder if age has any effect on the chances of success in becoming multi-orgasmic. Sexually mature men of all ages should see the same high rate of success, assuming they are sexually active and have a high level of personal sexual awareness.
If you have no trouble reaching singular orgasms either by yourself or with a partner, learning to become multi-orgasmic is only a matter of patience, determination and effort. If you do have trouble having singular orgasms or opening up sexually with yourself and your partner, however, you may have other issues to deal with before multiple orgasms are possible. If you are experiencing more serious problems, consult your healthcare provider or therapist.
The concept of the multi-orgasmic male is thousands of years old. Indeed, the Ancient Chinese Taoists knew about this and other profound sexual concepts and practices. Many such sexual secrets remain unknown, even in our age of sexual awareness and liberation. In the middle of the 20th century, western sex researchers confirmed the ability of males to experience multiple orgasms, but still an astonishing amount of sexual ignorance remains today.
Your ability to have multiple orgasms depends on your overall sexual awareness, and the strength and control of your PC muscle among many other factors. As with most achievements, this cannot necessarily be done all at once. Indeed it could take several weeks or even months before you succeed. Your results will depend upon your own personal effort, overall health and psychological determination.